After some days Paul said to Barnabas, “Let us return and visit the brethren in every city in which we proclaimed the word of the Lord, and see how they are.” Barnabas wanted to take John, called Mark, along with them also. But Paul kept insisting that they should not take him along who had deserted them in Pamphylia and had not gone with them to the work. And there occurred such a sharp disagreement that they separated from one another, and Barnabas took Mark with him and sailed away to Cyprus. But Paul chose Silas and left, being committed by the brethren to the grace of the Lord. Acts 15:36-40
In Acts 13:13, John had left Paul and the others in order to return to Jerusalem. This created a discord between Paul and John. Now ready to go on their next journey, Barnabus wanted to take John along, but Paul absolutely refused. This lead to a disagreement between Paul and Barnabus and they separated.
It’s hard to picture there being any kind of dissension among the apostles, but it did happen. Pride and unforgiveness can put a rift between people, even those who are close to each other.
What you don’t see here is that Paul, Barnabus and John were able to reconcile their differences and close the gap that had separated them. Paul came to admire John and even requested his presence in Rome during his last days. They are example setters to us.
We don’t always agree with each other, for a variety of reasons – differing levels of faith and understanding, maybe a little unforgiveness if a person makes an error, maybe a little pride gets in the way. But it is how we deal with the discord that will make the difference.
Love, forgiveness and a humble heart are keys to being closer as a family, the way God desires us to be.